Sometimes, I wish people would stop telling me how strong they think I am
And, then there are times that I truly need to hear it – because I feel everything but strong.
LB has so many wonderful friends who love following her journey on Facebook (facebook.com/LBsJourney) & there are a lot of phrases that get thrown around that get me thinking:
“I don’t know how you do it.”
“I could never do that.”
“You are tougher than I would be.”
Sometimes – I just cringe and think
I truly don’t believe that. You want to know why??
Because, if I were in your shoes I’d be thinking the exact same thing!
I would read your posts and, as they tore at my heart strings, I would think to myself, “there is no way I could ever do that! Like E.V.E.R”
I always use to say, “my heart isn’t strong enough for that,” when I would stumble upon tough experiences. In awe of those amazing people who are put in some sad, tough, and sometimes terrible situations.
But I have learned that I am a lot stronger than I gave myself credit for (& still sometimes don’t give myself credit for) — And so are you!
It’s not like I am a special breed of person who was “made” for this. I never thought my life would take this turn (even thought I’m thankful it did). But without being thrown into the situation of having a child with disabilities, I would’ve never know my capabilities.
Just like you don’t realize yours.
I am not doing anything special.
I am not rising above some bar.
All I am doing is what any mom would do:
I am loving my baby.
I am loving her through it all. And if that means accepting what’s thrown our way, finding joy in the little things, living life with a new perspective – then that’s what I am doing.
But, I am not stronger than you, or anyone else.
I am a glimpse of what you would be, if you were in my shoes.
Yes, there would be differences. Maybe I make mistakes that you wouldn’t. Perhaps you would surprise yourself and handle situations with more strength than I can muster.
So don’t sell yourself short.
I guarantee you, you’d be surprised at what you could handle.
I know I am.