Stop Telling Me How Strong I Am – LB Post 15

LB's mother struggles with the idea of people thinking she is stronger than she is. Having a child with disabilities is tough, but it's not what you think.

Sometimes, I wish people would stop telling me how strong they think I am

And, then there are times that I truly need to hear it – because I feel everything but strong.

LB has so many wonderful friends who love following her journey on Facebook ( & there are a lot of phrases that get thrown around that get me thinking:

“I don’t know how you do it.”

“I could never do that.”

“You are tougher than I would be.”

Sometimes – I just cringe and think


I truly don’t believe that. You want to know why??

Because, if I were in your shoes I’d be thinking the exact same thing!

I would read your posts and, as they tore at my heart strings, I would think to myself, “there is no way I could ever do that! Like E.V.E.R”

I always use to say, “my heart isn’t strong enough for that,” when I would stumble upon tough experiences. In awe of those amazing people who are put in some sad, tough, and sometimes terrible situations.

But I have learned that I am a lot stronger than I gave myself credit for (& still sometimes don’t give myself credit for) — And so are you!

It’s not like I am a special breed of person who was “made” for this. I never thought my life would take this turn (even thought I’m thankful it did). But without being thrown into the situation of having a child with disabilities, I would’ve never know my capabilities.

Just like you don’t realize yours.

I am not doing anything special.

I am not rising above some bar.

All I am doing is what any mom would do:

I am loving my baby.

I am loving her through it all. And if that means accepting what’s thrown our way, finding joy in the little things, living life with a new perspective – then that’s what I am doing.

But, I am not stronger than you, or anyone else.

I am a glimpse of what you would be, if you were in my shoes.

Yes, there would be differences. Maybe I make mistakes that you wouldn’t. Perhaps you would surprise yourself and handle situations with more strength than I can muster.

So don’t sell yourself short.

I guarantee you, you’d be surprised at what you could handle.

I know I am.

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